Tornado dream

•February 28, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

I was with my grandfather. we were eating breakfast together; bread and milk. We joked and I said the word milk backwards as I poured him some – from the bread! I squeezed the bread like a lemon and milk came from it.

My grandfather was small, not as tall as before. He wore white linen clothes and his hair was white. But otherwise, it was him.

We were sitting on the top floor in a glass building by the sea. It was a fancy place; the whole interior was white, floor was granite gray wall to wall carpet. Designer glasses and cutlery. Many people from high up in society were dining there. They looked down at me; because I wore a hijab, I was not welcome there but they could not kick me out since I had paid for the food.

We sat and ate, looking out at the sea. It was Öresund. Calm and navy blue gray. Then as I turned my head back toward looking through the glass part of the building that faced inland, I saw Lomma. And from there, a huge dark storm was forming in the sky. I felt the fear gripping me by my guts. I lost my speech. Grandfather was talking calmly and kindly. The storm came from the area where the old grocery store is.

I couldn’t hear my grandfather. The storm lowered itself to the level of the rooftops and a tornado started forming in its middle. First it was a small thread-like tornado, but it grew into a wide big one. And that’s when I gained my speech back:

“Morfar there is a big storm. Look. We have to go.” I said, almost monotonously. I was preparing for a big struggle. Then there was a huge moaning noise, like from steel bending, and I saw from the glass windows facing the sea, that the storm was embracing the building.

My grandfather didn’t seem scared at all. He just replied: “Jaha.” (“Ok then”, in Swedish) and got down from the chair by the table. He was going to go into the sea, via the windows.

People were panicking and running around in the restaurant. Most people were staring at the storm through the windows. I knew that the windows will burst soon, as soon as the tornado comes. I took my grandfather in my arms and lifted him and walked quickly to the stairs.

The stairs were made of stone, compact marble-like stone. Their color was the same as redwood trees. They formed a pillar. I took us there, and set my grandfather down. The storm was inaudible here.

“We stay here. This will not break.” I said, as I heard the glass windows breaking in the restaurant and people screaming from fear since they were being sucked into the storm. I held my grandfather’s hand, he was as tall as a child.

We went into the center of the pillar and I knealed and covered my grandfather in my coat and abaya and told him to be safe. I closed my eyes since I was worried I would get glass into them. I held onto my grandfather.

The tornado was approaching, I could hear its noise as if it was a sinking ship. People screaming, panicking, desperate. I was not so unwelcome anymore. They saw what I did and that I was in a safe place but only me and my grandfather were there. They didn’t come with us into the pillar. It puzzled me why; their safety was obvious if they only went to the pillar of marble stairs, where we were. It was as if they didn’t see that these stairs were both safety and survival. It hurt my heart to realize that nobody followed us.

The tornado and storm made roaring sounds.

Then I woke up.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

PS: my grandfather passed away Spring 2003, a few months before I reverted to Islam.

Fire Water Dream

•February 26, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسمالله الرحمن الرحيم

From being in a bright lush green place, I suddenly realized I was very high up in the air, kilometers up into the atmosphere. From being calm and at ease with myself, I realized that I had no ground under my feet! I was floating! Far up where the airplanes go!

Realizing this made me turn and dive down quickly as if I am a crashing airplane. I went down fast, fast, to the point where I got tunnel vision and could only see the huge blue sea I was about to crash into. I wanted to scream out but I was falling too fast. I wanted to grab onto something but there was nothing. Just air. There was nobody there. Just me.

I crashed into the water with such force that I was prepared to die but strangely enough I survived, and all that speed and force made me plunge deep into the sea, past the light turquoise layers and into the navy blue water. The force I went into the water with created a concentrated white stream of bubbles around me and it was beautiful to look at – until I spotted fire UNDER WATER!

A bright strong orange ball of fire was raging down there and it was coming up for me. I realized that the water was at risk from the fire. Once more, a dream where the water is perishing under the fire.

I took a deep breath of water (yes I was breathing water) and with ALL the energy I had inside me, I shot up toward the surface of the sea, with the intention to outfly the fire that was shooting up from the deep sea and to me. Almost too good for my eyes to believe, I managed to hurl myself fast and far but I was not sure it was fast enough; I could see the fire and I felt that it was too close for comfort.

What does all this mean?

Then I woke up.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

Shurouq resurfaces

•February 25, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Yes it is so. I am back here. In more ways than one. Those who know me personally know what I have experienced. Those who don’t, should count themselves as blessed.

For years, as I would emerge out of a dark ordeal, I would breathe a sigh of relief and thank Allah (swt) for guiding me to Islam and keeping me in a state of Islam and of sound imaan. I would feel as if the storm has passed and the waters are calm, inside me. The smell of fragrant Spring air, the promise of renewal and forgiveness… And I would tell myself that surely nothing worse can ever happen to me. This was as bad as it will get – and I passed. Alhamdu’li’Allah! And then I would move on. Forgetting the darkness I had been surrounded by.

And everytime I go to that place of blissful, strong, almost over-confident imaan, I forget how bad things were. How far away I was. I become arrogant. I take the gifts I have, for granted.

That’s when Allah (swt) rushes a new test on me, more severe than the one before. And I know that this will happen again and again, until I learn my lesson. So why even write this then?

Answer: to remind myself to try my best to not fall into that pit of arrogance again. Because, I don’t want to relive what I lived though last year, ever again.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

Easter witch man

•February 24, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Let me tell you a little story. A true story. Here it goes:

There is an older man living around the area I am in. He seems to wear the same clothes every day; a grey beaver nylon overall with the company name printed in white on his back. He wears the Scanian flag on his chest, like a farmer. The cap he wears looks like something farmers should wear. His skin wears the wrinkles of decades of wind against his face, hair marbled white and gray. Eyes piercing icy blue. Like a Scanian farmer. Spring winds in the field. Big icy blue sky, the scent of seeds and flowers. Bright Scandinavian sunshine. I was biking to work.

“Damn Easter witch! Easter has already been! Go back to Blåkulla!” he shouted as he bicycled past me, mid-2000s.

Shocked, I kept pedaling, not sure if I should have turned and biked after the man…or just simply, sheepishly, biked on. The insult dampened that year, and years to come. I was too young to let it go.

Years passed. I turned into a 30-something. Looking at the woman in the mirror, I assumed passing 30 meant that I’d acquired some kind of wisdom. Life crisis upon life crisis passed. People passed. People grew up. And I kept covering my hair.

In an attempt to please everyone, I wrapped my hijab into a turban style. Got out of my abaya and into a bohemic skirt. Switched the serious black handbag for an African hippie chic explosion in pink and funky lace. Walking to the bus, I felt confident this won’t offend anyone.

And then I saw him. The Easter Witch Man. Biking toward me as slowly as he had done a few years ago. He saw me and muttered “Easter witches…” under his breath. Trying to mask my angst, I wore a steel wire smile. I hoped it would ward off any comments. Alas.

“It’s not Easter yet, EASTER WITCH! Go on home!” he shouted as he slowly biked past me.

This time I was not going to have any of it. I turned around and ran after him, padding down my handbag as I ran. The confident woman now felt like a camel with a water sack around her torso. My winter boots slowed me down but I kept running.

“How can you speak to me like this??” I called out, “How dare you call a woman such things?!”

He muttered “Ya ya ya” and made sounds as if telling me he doesn’t hear me and doesn’t care to, either.

“YOU COWARD!!!” I shouted, as he kept biking past me and down the road, “COWARD!!!”

My self esteem was bruised. I felt so beautiful and this man reduced me to feeling like an ugly woman dressed in sackcloth. I should have been quiet. But my ego couldn’t take it. The American within me roared. She was hurt and she needed to come out, outrun the man on his bike and do her drama show:

  • “I’m an American citizen!”
  • “You have no right to treat me like this!”
  • “Nobody puts Baby in a corner!”
  • “I’m going to sue you for all you’re worth!”
  • “By God you’re gonna feel so sorry for yourself when I am done!”

But I tucked the 1950s diva back into my heart and told myself that justice will come. I will have my day, if not here then in the akhira. Of course my American side was upset with me for a few hours. It took a lot of chocolate to harness this side of myself.

And then, yesterday, that day came. Can you believe it? It was too good to be true. But as I made my way past the main doors to a local grocery store, there he was! Strolling toward ME! This time without his aluminum horse of a bike. He was unarmed, in other words. Here was my chance.

The American diva inside me said: “Beat him up! Swing those soft white hands like battle axes! He deserves it! Forget about your hijab – this is about revenge! Eye for an eye! You know!!” I took a few deep breaths. He saw me, muttered and looked down at the ground. Continued walking toward me. Walked past me. Kept looking down. But then I turned around:

“Excuse me, could I have a word with you?” but inside I was shaking.
The diva was gone. On the inside, I was panicking; “What are you doing what are you DOING????”

He turned around and looked shocked.

“What??” 
“For years, you keep screaming at me…” I started.
“No I don’t!” he said loudly and looked offended.
“Yes you do…I know it’s you, I recognize your overall and cap. And you yell at me.”
“No I don’t I am talking on my cellphone! Where did I do that?” he asked, now looking surprised at my fluency in Swedish.
“You never bike and talk on the phone; I see you. Every time you pass me with your bike, be it here or in the neighboring village, you call me names.”
“I never saw you!” he said and grinned. We both knew he was lying.
“Yes you did. But I am not here to be mean to you. I don’t want to fight you. I just wanted to say hello.”

The Easter Witch Man then let down his guard, and wept. Looked into my eyes. So I put my hand on his arm.

“I am a teacher for little children. And I am Swedish. And I am not dangerous even!” I said and did my best at smiling.
“I don’t know what you are talking about, I never saw you…” he said quietly as he kept looking into my eyes, tears falling down his cheeks.
“Well. Now you see me. I just wanted you to see that I am human. So you remember this next time you see me.” I replied.

He kept crying. And staring. So I just said: “You know what, it’s OK. It’s OK.”

He smiled. I smiled. And you know something? I walked with my back straight, head held high. And my clothes, felt just right.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

Worod & Awrad

•February 23, 2012 • 2 Comments

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

*

I saw you

Your smile

.

I read you

Understood

That I have to be

Wherever you are

.

I need to make a bond

Need to make you mine

.

Jealous eyes

Criticize

Closed minds

Spat on you

.

So I covered you

I held you under my coat

I consoled your light

And asked you to forgive me

.

Then that night that night

When the waters wept

When the air held its breath

I followed, you

I whispered, you

الله… الله… الله حق

And asked you to forgive me

.

What kind of lover am I!

That I hid you from my world!

What true soul would do that to you!

Such radiance such beauty and it’s mine

- I should have shouted your name!

.

Instead I hid you and hoped you would

Hide me too

.

That night, at night that night

Hidden covered protected

I closed my eyes

So the fear would go away

I closed my ears

Hoping the horror was a dream

.

That night

You danced

Dhohr sky

Soaring rose petals

You danced like a child

Smiled until it filled the world

And the sky lit up

You whirled and you didn’t stop

.

And you asked me to whirl with you

And your smile broke into laughter

And God poured through you

.

And whenever I leave your world

Your smile and your flowers

Remain

Dreaming of the Nile

•February 19, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

I was in Upper Egypt. The sky was a dhohr-like sky, bright blue kind of white. Fragrant, bambo-swish-sounding green grass that seemed to be either huge grass, long slim reeds or crops rose high, about a meter tall. The grew in water and in front of me was the Nile, wide and calm almost like a sea.

I couldn’t see myself; I was not observing anymore. I am there. In front of me by the river bank and in the water as well, was a cow. She was fat, completely reddish brown and I had a red gem in one of her ears so I could recognize her. She looked at me, had a determined look, made a sound and pointed me to the other side of the Nile. But she was not quick and she seemed that she could not swim and I didn’t know how to get her to the other side either. So I stayed with her by the river bank and in that calm water.

The smell of grass and of clay and earth. A feeling of yaqîn was in the air. Calmness, certainty. The cow looked at me and she felt as if she was human.

Then I woke up.

 

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

Flickering

•February 17, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Today is a day when I feel that I am letting the world down. Letting the family down. Letting the mashaykh down. And wondering what would be, scared of what didn’t happen yet and scared of my own tongue. Want to gather the words back and be quiet.

My heart just wants to go home. But I have none. My heart wants to take care of her family. I open my eyes and see that she’s almost as tall as I am. And soon these arms will stand alone. I am not complaining. I am just weary from battling out life alone. Of holding onto my child, alone. The years, the years.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

Not Alone, Finally

•February 13, 2012 • Leave a Comment

2003. 2004. 2005. 2006.

2007. 2008. 2009. 2010.

…2011.

2012…

I thought I was alone in my quest. In the beginning it’s exciting and fun to feel unique.

“Well it’s this or a costume party”, my mother mumbled as she looked at my velvety black, buttery soft abaya, lined with dust golden thread and petals.

I felt rebellious and different and I think people felt I was just that. People confronted me and challenged me. What they all – including you; you know who you are – failed to see is that I was never any of it and by far too naive and gullible to manage the games and the lies.

On my musalla, running my hands over my face, I asked myself simply, where are my people. Where are my people? My kind? The people who know the difference between love and love. Do they even exist?

Life in my world is like a broken record sometimes.

“Where are you from?”

“Sweden and the USA.”

“Both?”

“Yes.”

“But what nationality are you?”

“Both.”

[silence]

“So you were Christian before?”

“No.”

“No? Atheist?”

“No.”

“Buddhist?”

“No.”

“Your parents! One of them is Muslim?”

“No.”

[silence and inhaling as the questioner realizes]

“You are from the Jewish!”

[here is where I breathe in deeply]

“Yes. But alhamdu’li’Allah I am Muslim first – 100% Muslim, the best passport” like a radio jingle.

“Alhamdu’li’Allah alhamdu’li’Allah, wa shukr’li’Allah. You read Qur’an?”

I am Jewish. I am a mix. I am a bit Native American, a bit Polish, a bit French, a bit Wallon, a bit Swedish… And yes. My faith was Jewish. My culture is Jewish. Why else do you think I fit in so well? We are from the same Semitic roots.

There is an idea among people, that Jewish people are spies. For almost a decade, I have tried to prove people wrong in this. I have had to prove that I am not a spy as well, sometimes. And what seemed to be such an exotic and uplifting path in life, turns into feeling like I am constantly dragging my feet against the tidal waters in the world.

I have so much beauty I saw, that I want to share with you. There is so much to see, hear and read. I don’t want to feel as though I need to throw my identity away and replace it with a template “Arab Muslim woman”-identity, just to be accepted. But I thought I had to do this, before.

Then I heard of a man called Shai Ben Tzur. A friend of mine – Muslim sister actually – introduced me to his music. Although he does not say this out loud, I can see it. You see in people’s faces if they are in love with this faith, or not. There is a huge difference between loving and being in love. And I see in his face that he knows what I know.

And it is just like me like him like Barakah like Refqa like the thousands of people whose faces passed me in this life. We all know. And when we say it out loud, we become like Nasruddin Hodja to our people. We lose our land and our people on the spot.

Are you strong enough to manage that for the rest of your life? Would you be?

Many are not. So at night when all the children are asleep and only the night owls of the adults are still awake, the true lovers speak. Barakah speaks of tasawuff. And during the day, Ustadh Ben Tzur veils his love in his music and in the sad fact that if you say it in Hebrew, you can’t be. Can you? Is he? Who will know? Allah (swt) knows.

My heart fell into my hands and my shoulders went down. No need to keep back. It’s time to make myself a niche to call home, here. For I am not the only one.

Salaam alaykum,

Sarah

Turning Memories into Lemons

•February 7, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الراحمن الرحيم

Before I start my journey into Egypt 2003-2005, I want to share something with you. It meant the world to me so that’s why it goes into this blog. 

I grew up in southern California. In my garden, I had a huge fig tree and a lemon tree. The front yard was covered in huge red flowers; to me it was a forest.

One of the last things I did before leaving my home in Venice, was to go and pick lemons and gather them into a big brown paper bag. I picked all the lemons I could reach, and ate them in the car. I booked a playdate with a friend the day we were leaving, thinking that since I have a playdate, we can’t go.

The weather in Venice is pretty much like that of Alexandria. Roaring rolling seas, fruits, swishing trees (Ma’amora!) and a sweet smell of earth and flowers in the air.

Coming to Sweden was harsh. Lemons are sour and figs look rotten.

For years I told my best friend in this world and in the akhira about this. And last night, in a modest little plastic bag, was a lemon.  A sweet lemon. Like home. I closed my eyes and breathed in the sweetness and tangy water.

He might not know it, but it meant more than jewels and money to me. Thank you. So much.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

My Egypt

•February 7, 2012 • Leave a Comment

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Morning smiles. Morning food. Sunrise. Snow. Mint leaves and memories.

“You have all these memories in your head and I forgot them – you should write them all down in your blog!” he says.

“Yeah….remember the pile of dirt that to her eyes was a mountain of sand? And how she told the worker off in the fourth language? Remember the sound of the crickets? Do you remember the neverending request to have kushary every single afternoon? Do you remember calling me from the minaret?”

“Write it down!”

So, that is what I am going to do. For the upcoming few posts or more – we shall see! – I am going to write down what we lived through in Cairo. Why? Am I so special? Did we do something out of the ordinary? Maybe yes and maybe no! Is it an ordinary thing to throw your hands up in the air and say kefayya ba’a and take the first plane to Cairo, if you are not Egyptian? Is it normal for a two-year old who’s never been there, to look at her hosts and speak to them as if she’s born there?

There is no such thing as normal. Only different people’s experiences. And if you are interested in knowing what brought me and my Estouta to Egypt and back then keep an eye on what I write here over the upcoming weeks.

Salaam alaykum,

Oum Isra’a

 
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